20 Christian Quotes About Boundaries

“I may not agree with you or you with me. Yet I can remain in relationship with you. I don’t have to detach from, reject, avoid, or criticize you to validate myself. I can be myself apart from you.” – Peter Scazzero

“Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership. – Henry Cloud

Boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out.  – Henry Cloud

“When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. – Henry Cloud

“You get what you tolerate.” – Henry Cloud

“If you continue to blame other people for “making” you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people.” – Henry Cloud

“One of the first signs that you’re beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frustration, or anger at the subtle and not-so-subtle violations in your life. Just as radar signals the approach of a foreign missile, your anger can alert you to boundary violations in your life.” – Henry Cloud

“Do not let an out-of-control person be the cue for you to change your course. Just allow him to be angry and decide for yourself what you need to do.” – Henry Cloud

“Many people are too quick to trust someone in the name of forgiveness and not make sure that the other is producing “fruit in keeping with repentance” (Luke 3:8). To continue to open yourself up emotionally to an abusive or addicted person without seeing true change is foolish. – Henry Cloud

“You cannot fix people who will not take feedback, because from their perspective, they do not have a problem.” – Henry Cloud

“Proverbs 22:3 says that “the prudent man sees the evil and hides himself.” Sometimes physically removing yourself from a situation will help maintain boundaries. You can do this to replenish yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually after you have given to your limit, as Jesus often did.” – Henry Cloud

“It’s important to understand that your no is always subject to you. You own your boundaries. They don’t own you. If you set limits with someone, and she responds maturely and lovingly, you can renegotiate the boundary. In addition, you can change the boundary if you are in a safer place.” – Henry Cloud

“One of the most important types of decision making is deciding what you are not going to do, what you need to eliminate in order to make room for strategic investments.” – Henry Cloud

“We must not confuse the command to love with the disease to please.” – Lysa Terkhurst

“Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else. Make sure your yes is worth the less.” – Lysa Terkhurst

“Don’t allow the unrealistic demands of others to march freely into your life.” – Lysa Terkhurst

“Live from the abundant place that you are loved, and you won’t find yourself begging others for scraps of love.” – Lysa Terkhurst

“Learn to say no. It will be of more use to you than to be able to read Latin.” – Charles Spurgeon

“The martyr sacrifices herself entirely in vain. Or rather not in vain; for she makes the selfish more selfish, the lazy more lazy, the narrow narrower.” – Florence Nightingale

“Some people come in our life as blessings. Some come in your life as lessons.” – Mother Teresa